Love is probably the saddest form of suicide. It meshes your feet on the ground, with sprouting thorny roots dragging you towards the abyss of depression until you fall into the trench of pain and affliction. Situations like this make love the most tragic but fantastic thing in the world; therefore, it is nothing but a stimulation of mixed, contradicting emotions.
We can describe love as a soft, deep, tender, and passionate affection for another person, plus, a feeling of a comfortable attachment. (“Infatuation vs Love,” n.d.). It is a human emotion that causes someone to be attached to another and it can either be comfortable or destructive to its host. Generally, the concept of love originates from being attached and it can also be related to affection. But, the notion behind them is they both come to an end, either through break-up, divorce, or death. True love is so overrated as it is often seen as never-ending. Most people do not realize that it is not forever, thus making love tragic.
Four functions of the brain are stimulated when you are in love. They generally cause the body to be sexually aroused, to be happy, to feel like being induced by cocaine, and to feel like flying through the seventh heaven. (“Physical Causes of Love,” n.d.) These are all because of the biochemical rush the brain is experiencing. Such stimulations are just some things love can bring and they can also vary from person to person. Basically, it makes you the king or queen of a magical utopian fantasy.
Effects such as depression are nothing but side effects of love, either because it is too much or you are experiencing it too much. The stereotypical idea when it comes to love is that most of us always think that either one will get hurt or feel comfortable. Some do not understand the true meaning behind love, because to understand it, one must first understand what prevents us from loving. (What is the meaning of love?, n.d.). One perfect example of this is fear: fear of being vulnerable, fear of surrendering, and, most importantly, fear of suffering. (Anitei, 2008). Gaiman (1999) explains that “love opens up your chest and it opens up your heart, meaning, someone can get inside you and mess you up.” Most of us see that love equals to pain and suffering. The truth is, pain and suffering are not synonymous with each other. Love can be equal to pain as pain is inevitable, but love cannot be equal to suffering as suffering is optional. Most of the time, pain actually makes a relationship stronger, but we must have courage to face it. Suffering is just a side effect of pain as depression is a side effect of love. Love and pain are inevitable emotions while depression and suffering are optional afflictions.
Love is a contradicting equation yet a fathomable kind of emotion. Oftentimes, the feeling of euphoria shifts to a paradigm of sadness. To connect the dots together, we must first remove all stereotypes, all ideas, and all things that prevent us from loving. We must have the courage to see for ourselves the gates to which it will lead us, whether it is sadness or even deeper than just mere happiness.
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